Your Thoughts, Your Life

As the winter months approach, perhaps this is a good time to begin that journey within to discover who you truly are and what you want from life.   Do you want to stay on the hamster wheel of indecision and in action or do you choose to fling open that cage door and embrace your life’s purpose and run with it? Should you encounter rejection, please to not allow it to turn you from your new path.  Instead, use those stones that the misunderstood have thrown at you in judgment or rejection and use them to build your new path.

In order for you to find your way out of that rut, you need to be willing to not only think outside that box, but act outside that box.  For most of us, it is easy to say we will change something.  However, to actually take that first step or put your pinky toe in the water and give it a try takes great courage.  We find ourselves obsessed with whether those closest to us will judge us.  Not only judge us, but judge us unfavorably as weird, crazy or (gasp) not normal.  

How often do you find yourself sitting with your thoughts of “If I could only…,” “When ‘this’ happens, I will…,” or “If only I was as good as ‘this person,’ I would…”?  Yet should one of those scenarios you put up as an obstacle actual clear your path to what you would do, what do you do?  Most likely nothing because in your mind you never thought you would have to face it.  So you return to your idle “if-then” spinning and make more excuses for why you can’t move forward with that thought, idea, ambition.

If you stop and think about it, none of us are normal.  We all have our own unique viewpoints, our own idiosyncrasies, and our own particular habits.  It’s hard to step out from behind the masks that we wear for all the different people in our lives.  We are the wife, the mother, the sister, the best friend, the daughter.  But all those roles lead us little room to let our true selves and true thoughts come to light. 

In order to allow our thoughts to flow freely and to claim the people we know we are inside, we need to take a deep breath and learn to be comfortable with our true selves.  Criticism is never easy, especially criticism of the deep parts of our selves when we choose to share them with others.  However, this growth process will certainly show you who your true friends are and who you may choose to cut out of your life.